Momster Meltdowns: 10 Ways to Recover from a Really Bad Day

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I lost it today.

Like really really lost it.

It wasn’t that the day was running terribly. It wasn’t that the kids were having difficult behaviors. It wasn’t really all that terrible of a day. A peaceful and quiet day with one big thing to tip it all tumbling down into a horrific mommy meltdown.

Recovering from a Mommy Meltdown: 10 Tips to Regain Your Sanity

For the past couple of weeks the hubs has been traveling for work which makes life a little extra chaotic. Meatball doesn’t quite understand it and is experiencing some pretty big emotions. Livia isn’t a big fan of routine changes and is going to town expressing that. But, all in all it could be worse.

For the weekends we have been traveling up to wherever the hubs is staying to spend some family time together. The kiddos are loving it. They get to bounce around a hotel room wreaking havoc and their absolute favorite – getting to eat out at “fancy” restaurants.

Going to a restaurant isn’t something my kiddos get to do all that much. It is just one of those skills that we haven’t quite mastered. One of the few things that we have found works while eating out is to bring some hot wheel cars for Meatball and let him drive them around under the table while waiting for food. It works. Or so we thought…

This particular time though he had another thing in mind. I don’t know if it was boredom or the fact that we were in the car all day and he had just a little bit too much energy…or maybe it was the fact that we are working on potty training. But, things were going smoothly, he was under the table playing peacefully with his cars, and then we smelled it. That horribly haunting smell that screams blow-out. Grabbing the diaper bag the hubs gracefully volunteered to take care of it only to discover that it was the entire, yes entire, booth wall that had been covered. Painting poop in a resturaunt.

I lost it. …and that waiter got a tip larger than our bill.

Recovering from a Mommy Meltdown:

Meltdowns can often make you feel hopeless and out of control – a train-wreck that fills you with guilt. Thankfully, it is within our control to recover from one and kids can be extremely forgiving creatures. Below are 10 ideas to recover from a mommy meltdown!

1. Take Breathing Space: Take some really deep belly breaths. Take a walk. Find a quiet place and absorb the peace…or scream where no one can hear you. Take whatever you need to grab a you minute and quiet your mind. Tackle the issue once you are calm and out of fight or flight.

2. Ask for Help: We are parents not super humans. And even if your kiddo has managed to convince you that you are a super hero {you most definitely are to them!}, almost every super hero has a side-kick. Step aside when things get too much and ask for help from your friends and family. You don’t have to tackle it all alone.

3. Take a Time-In: Ideally a time-in is used before the situation spirals out of control, but it is also a fantastic way to regain control once things have reached chaos. Instead of punishing because you are on the brink of a tantrum send everyone off to do their own quiet activity for 5-20 minutes and take that time to refresh, regroup, and recharge.

4. Change Environment: Nothing working? Can’t find your sanity? Go burn that energy off. Go for a workout. Go complete some tasks on your to do list. Go make yourself happy. Go do whatever you can do to distract yourself and get those endorphins pumping.

5. Apologize: Wrap your kiddos in a bear hug. Smoother them in smooches. Tell them you are sorry and why. Lead by example, show them how to apologize and why it is the right thing to do. Turn your Momster Meltdown into a teachable moment.

6. Apologize Again: To the adults who were in the wrong place at the wrong time. To your partner. Admit your wrongs.

7. Make a Plan: Identify your emotions and how you reacted to the situation. Think about your triggers. Make a list of ideas that will help you prevent this in the future.

8. Forgive Yourself: Cut yourself some slack and move on. We all make mistakes. Don’t carry the past around with you.

9. Count Your Blessings: I am not a big fan of miracles in a sentence, but this one is an exception. When things get rough tally up everything that is going right. Appreciate that your family loves you unconditionally. Accept their forgiveness. Be grateful for every little thing that you are blessed with. An attitude of gratitude is contagious and will brighten the mood.

10. Don’t Be Afraid to Seek Professional Help if Needed: This one is the most difficult for me. When it comes to counseling of any type I struggle to admit that I need it. Be brave. Ask for help.

And remember {as my daughter always tells me}

[su_quote]Yesterday’s the past, tomorrow’s the future, but today is a gift. That’s why it’s called the present. –Kung Fu Panda[/su_quote]

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